It’s almost June of 2015 and I’m not letting Negative People (Toxic Relationships) anywhere near me = Go Away!
I have 3 pet peeves that define Toxic Relationships that absolutely drive me Bonkers:
- You Interrupt Me Constantly
- You Repeat Yourself (2 or 3 times) After I Tell You “I Get It”
- You Complain Without Offering a Positive Solution
It’s Easy to Say “No”
Harder to Find Reason to Say YES and Keep Moving Forward
Following along the topic of changing one’s behavior (Positive Behavior Changes, 04.20.2015) it was pointed out to me that it is VERY Important that you also recognize how these “Offensive Actions” make you feel BEFORE you take action to correct them or provide the communication to the Offender = Lesson Learned.
I was finding myself responding in a passionate way that wasn’t always the most appropriate or constructive method of expressing myself = I knew intellectually it wasn’t the “Best” thing to say, but MY Passion has been getting the “Best” of me; which is FANTASTIC for my Creativity = not so much for playing with “Others”. But, that’s another Topic for another time.
If your disrespect is directed toward Others or your favorite word is “ME” or “I” = Head’s Up = it’ll probably irritate me = I can’t help myself = It’s a CURSE = I’ll get agitated when you show Disrespect = Keep in mind = that’s just ME = I own this behavior.
I uncovered with Behavior Therapist, Debbie Bensching a very interesting Point-of-Awareness over sandwiches a couple of weeks ago = At the “Point” of the Offensive Behavior = Recognize: How does that make me “Feel” at the moment of impact = a Big Punch in the Gut! (yes, that’s how it feels; like a punch in the gut > just because I don’t show it, doesn’t mean I don’t FEEL IT!)
The conversations we’ll be having on this Topic are as diverse as there are different Market Silos that define the Creatives that lurk in these specific Silos.
So maybe next time I bite your head off = Wonder Why!
Take-Aways from this Article:
1. Be Positive it will help you too
2. Care and Feeding of your Creative Team = it will reward you = don’t dump cold water on them
3. Communication styles that work = LISTEN FIRST = ASK QUESTIONS AFTER YOU’VE LISTENED = Do Not pretend to Listen while you think of the next question to ask